Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.
Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!
What Real Hope Is
Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.
One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.
Hope can be broken down into two components:
- Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
- Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.
Does Hope Really Work?
According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”
As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.
My Experience with Hope
For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.
The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.
I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.
Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.
Hope Actually Improves Your Life
Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.
Studies show that hopeful people tend to:
- Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
- Cultivate healthier relationships
- Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
- Exhibit better work ethic
- Have a positive outlook on life
These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.
How to Develop the Skill to Hope
As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”
If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:
1. Dream Again
To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:
- Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
- Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
- Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.
Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.
2. Create an Environment of Hope
- Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
- Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
- Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.
An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.
3. Face the Challenges
Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.
4. Commit to Wisdom
Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.
5. Take Note of Small Wins
Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:
- What challenges have I already overcome?
- How did I feel when I succeeded?
By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.
Conclusion
Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.
Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.